Another Dream

[queerbychoice]

Last night I dreamed I had a girlfriend. And my girlfriend had a LiveJournal, but she wasn't Miranda and she wasn't any actual real-life LiveJournal person.

She had pale skin, but not quite so pale as mine; it didn't freckle at all and was devoid of any distinguishing marks. She had plain brown hair, a slightly pale medium brown (lighter than mine), completely straight, and just past shoulder length (shorter than mine). Since the people I've been attracted to have generally been darker-colored than that I'm a little surprised that my sleeping mind would have imagined for me a girlfriend with hair of any color but black, but anyway that's what she looked like.

She was a very quiet non-adventurous kind of person, a little younger than me, the kind who would never ever take any drugs or drive faster than the speed limit. Her taste in clothes was extremely average, normal and undistinguished: she just wore blue jeans and white T-shirts, no makeup, no piercings or jewelry or decor of any kind. Non-adventurous. She was a nice person with a very plain, undifferentiated personality. She was compatible with me; we got along well. She was sort of like a sanded-down version of me with all the decorations and details removed.

We were in my bedroom together, not my current bedroom but my old bedroom in my parents' old house where I lived the whole time that I lived with my parents. We were sitting on my bed talking about LiveJournal, and specifically about how we both had Black_Pearl on our friends lists and we both missed her. (This was an odd repeat of when Jeremy and I had the exact same conversation in real life.) My girlfriend was involved in an online project that Pearl is involved in, so my girlfriend had some more recent news of Pearl's doings these days than I did, and I was listening attentively. We were happy and we were having a good conversation about our mutual friends . . . and that's all that happened, because after that I woke up.

It was a bit sad to wake up because then I missed my girlfriend and I realized I'd never see her again or get to know her well since she turned out to be only a dream. But then at the same time I realized I do have a different girlfriend who's prettier and has more personality of her own and a more interesting fashion sense, so I think I got a pretty good trade.

Still, I wouldn't mind having both of them. The dream girlfriend was nice too.

Comments

[heron61.livejournal.com]

Odd, you are the only person I've met that have had people-focused dreams where the focus person is someone you don't know awake. Most of mine involve meeting the person and becoming friends or lovers. Most are fairly mundane, but I had two wonderful ones - one where the woman was a werewolf and just before I woke up I found this fact out and she agreed to teach me to be one too - I was not happy about waking up from that one... The other really interesting one involved meeting someone who was not only absolutely androgynous, but on the several occasions when we got intimate, they had changed sex, rather amazingly cool...

This is a regular type of dream for me, although I generally only have 1-3 of this type a year (and never with the same person twice). Is this the first such dream you have had?

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

I think a little less than half of my dreams contain fictional people as prominent characters. My dream from the previous night also started out with fictional people as the main characters - and more interestingly, it started out in the third person without any sense of a "me" in it anywhere.

Most of my dreams from early childhood involved nothng but me and fictional monstrously oversized animal characters - thirty-foot pigs, six-foot insects, and the like. The animals had personalities too and often talked, so I think that would count as something similar.

[exterra.livejournal.com]

Odd, you are the only person I've met that have had people-focused dreams where the focus person is someone you don't know awake.

Really? Is it so unusual, I thought it quite common? It is *extremely* rare for me to dream about someone i know awake. My dreams are almost always focused on someone i've never met in waking life. Occasionally stand-ins for my family will appear in dreams but they're never my actually mother/sister/father but some other person who is in my dream is the mother/sister/father. The dreams I have about the most intense relationships/connections are always with people I've never met in waking life.

[heron61.livejournal.com]

Hmm, I wasn't particularly clear was I...

What I meant to say was that I've never before run into anyone else who also had dreams that had as their central focus meeting or knowing someone that one did not know while awake. Having or even major characters in dreams who do not correspond to waking people seems exceedingly common. However, having a dream that is solely about knowing or meeting such a person is IME nearly unique to me.

[exterra.livejournal.com]

ah, that is more specific. but still not uncommon (to me). these are the dreams that leave me feeling a bit empty and sad when waking -- long, elaborate dreams about such intense connections with people i've never met and probably don't exist. i've never asked my friends if they have dreams like this often. i know my sister does. i think someone needs to whip up a(n oh so scientific) dream survey:).

[transliberation.livejournal.com]

You go, my dear potentially polyamorous one! ;-)