Anonymity

[queerbychoice]

Hi, this is an invitation for everyone to post anonymous comments of any kind whatsoever. All anonymous comments posted here will be attributed to donutgirl and any blame which may be merited by them shall fall upon her.

You do of course have the option to state in your comment, "NO I AM NOT DONUTGIRL" but that does not mean I have to actually believe you.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I AM NOT DONUTGIRL.

i am, in fact, a boy.

i think you are a wonderful person, and i think you're handling the boy business wery well. also, i wish we could talk more.
also, i think i'm slowly going insane again. but that's ok.
xo

[(Anonymous)]

YOUR MOM!

And stuff. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

I would never tell you this unless you asked, because it's none of my business, but I'm going to construe this as asking.

I think you are too hard on your parents, sometimes. Everyone's parents are difficult and a little bit insane, and yours are no exception. But they seem to me (and of course, I don't really know them), to be not altogether unreasonable. Your mother, particularly, is trying to understand you, trying to respect you, trying to learn about you. She doesn't always succeed, but the fact that she's trying puts her way beyond some parents, as I'm sure you are aware. Things like queerness and internet relations are not as obvious to them as to you... but they're trying.

I also think your relationship to your mother contributes heftily to your control issues, i.e. making your mind up about something and never ever ever changing it not one tiny little bit. While this is a very admirable charactersitic in some circumstances, in others it may inhibit growth. I just think it's a shame to have made up your mind about everything in the world at the tender age of 26(?).

This includes food. There's a whole delicious and nutritious world of food out there, waiting for you to put down the pastaroni and try something new. I happen to believe that all food neuroses tell you something about your subconsious relationship to your mother, but this is just my pet theory. Also, sometimes things that smell bad actually taste good. This may be considered a metaphor for life.

And in case you hadn't guessed all ready, yes this is donutgirl. I meant all the above in good fun and I hope you find it amusing, rather than upsetting. Despite disagreeing with you frequently, I admire you a lot and I really enjoy being on your friends list.

[(Anonymous)]

I am not donutgirl, but I totally and completely agree with her comment.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm perfectly aware that there are plenty of parents much worse than mine, and that mine do try. That just doesn't mean I shouldn't be allowed to complain about mine too. :p

And actually, there are quite a few things I haven't formed any opinion about; I just don't talk about them in my journal because I haven't figured out what to say about them yet.

But thanks for the comments; if I ever get terribly mad at you and feel an intense need to wreak horrific revenge, I will know exactly how to achieve it. I'll just mail you a year's supply of my favorite foods. :p

[(Anonymous)]

NO I AM NOT DONUTGIRL.

Gee, when you're just asking for anonymous comments, its kind of difficult to actually harsh rude or mean things to you now isn't it?

by the way, i am, in fact, experimentego.

[(Anonymous)]

I could never spend time with you for very long offline because your taste in food is just so hideously BORING.

Also, my sex partner and I talked about you during our happy-post-sex-afterglowy, but-still-doing-things time once. We were talking and mentioned another friend, who I determined would not be terribly pleased to know that we were talking about em at that time. "Who would?" my sex partner asked. I thought for a while and replied, "I bet Gayle would." And then we talked about you briefly.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

That's lovely. I like this story very much.

So okay, I promise not to invite you to dinner. You can just visit me between meals only.

[(Anonymous)]

Ha! I knew you'd like it.

[(Anonymous)]

sometimes I feel you focus a lot on others' problems.. others' state of health or mind.. but it seems you ignore what you're feeling inside.. and what problems directly interlink to who you are inside..

and damn you're feisty. - Thats not really a bad thing though.

and Not donut girl ;0

[(Anonymous)]

You don't really understand some people very well at all. The thing is people are always very strange and different and have these random hang-ups, habits, and obsessions, and so do you. At various points in time your issues and their issues are going to clash, and you both have to put some of those aside, or dull them a little, in order to manage. Some of your hang-ups are reasonable, but other ones are pretty trivial and hard to relate to, and people want you to just stop already. That said, you're still well-meaning and interesting and have some cool obsessions as well as some weird ones. So I wouldn't be upset about it.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

You really need to be vastly more specific about what I'm not understanding and what hang-ups are so trivial if you expect me to have any chance of figuring out what you're even talking about here.

[(Anonymous)]

Gosh, you really smell!
Ever heard of deodorant?
er something

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

You've never met me, silly.

[(Anonymous)]

COOTIES.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you would benefit from reading and participating the community acoa. Having read a bit of your journal I get the impression that you'd find you have a lot in common with the people in that community.

NO I AM NOT DONUTGIRL but you don't have to believe me.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

Considering that I grew up with two happily married parents who were consistently employed and never ever physically nor verbally abusive at all, I think I would not fit into that community very well at all. The fact that my father is fonder of alcohol than I would prefer doesn't change the fact that he's still noticeably saner than 99% of other people's fathers seem to be.