Would You Date a Heterosexual?

[queerbychoice]

Talking to too many people lately who think significantly differently than me about this subject made me curious about the ratios here. Mainly about the ratios for bisexuals, but I decided to include everybody else in the poll too.

[Poll #586484]

Comments

[novalis.livejournal.com]

How bisexual does a person have to be? Is it enough that would date someone of the same sex if they happened to be attracted to them, but they have never been attracted to someone of the same sex, and don't expect to be in the future?

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

To me what matters is that they should consider themself capable of being attracted to the same sex, and unafraid of this capability. Because I wouldn't consider someone sufficiently intellectually compatible with someone for dating them to be a good idea unless they believed themselves capable of choosing to be queer, and considered such a choice to be a good idea. In which case, I think it logically follows that they would choose it.

Also:

QBC 101: ha, i converted somebody!
QBC 101: i did!
chisparoja1: hee
QBC 101: in the further comments section! did you see it?
QBC 101: "novalis -- Hm. But now that you mention it, your position is probably the correct one."
chisparoja1: yep ;-)
QBC 101: i am saving the world one step at a time. ;-)

[dobrovolets.livejournal.com]

I suspect that, among those attracted to both sexes, there may be some correlation to gender. Heterosexual women are much easier to deal with than heterosexual men, so bi men would have less reason to avoid dating hets of the opposite sex than bi women.

[pure-agnostic.livejournal.com]

That certainly makes sense. I've met quite a few bi women who said the only men they would only date are bi men. To them, the bi men have more understanding and acceptance of feminism, their bi-ness, and queer culture, than straight men would have. And I've heard many bi men say they prefer bi women, but would not exclude het women.

[kandelschwartz.livejournal.com]

That sounds like an iffy way to choose a mate.

If what you dislike is some other trait about a person (e.g. not being intimately familiar with your pet subculture), then categorize people that way. Don't pick some other trait to harp on, especially if it allows you to say something as trendy as, "Heterosexual men are difficult to deal with."

Heuristics are fine to a point, but put like you put it, you're insulting a lot of people who mean you no harm.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

The state of being heterosexual inherently is the state of believing that someone's gender is a good reason not to date them. If someone is going to refuse to date other people because of their physical gender, then I'm certainly going to refuse to date that person because of that choice they made.

[kandelschwartz.livejournal.com]

You're comparing two like things. Your conclusion does not obviously follow from what else you said.