It isn't condescending nor snide to me. That's an interpretation, not my truth. Passionate, yes. Brutal, possibly. Not sugar-coating, definately. But condescending... that's a word. But it wouldn't be mine.
He did not imply that it should be used as though it were his name. You chose to address him by it repeatedly and continually. I fail to understand how you can possibly not consider that "snide."
First - I have a very limited tolerance for prolonged nasty arguments taking place in my email inbox. I like checking my email to be a primarily pleasant experience, and when several days pass in which every time I open my email box I have to watch people I like calling each other rude names, it ruins my mood continually and I become very irritable. Realizing that the majority of this argument, and practically all of the nastiest parts, did not end up in my own email box but did end up in the email boxes of friends of mine just makes it all worse. It makes me extremely irritable and after it's gone on a few days I start dreading to even check my mail at all and at that point I either start deleting everything unread or I go on a murderous rampage and try to delete all the people who wrote it instead.
Second - I bit my tongue about several things you posted right after our AIM conversation, because it didn't feel like a good time for me to start complaining all over again, but they grated on me and they're not going to stop grating on me until I mention them so I'd better do so now. One: I'm sure you didn't know it, but the correct pronoun to refer to me is "he," not "she." With nouns I identify as a woman, but with pronouns I go by either male ones or genderfree ones when online - the idea being, basically, I don't consider myself male but I don't wish to submit to the traditional gender system's pronoun segregation rules. And two: don't EVER call me a "girl." That word makes all the hair from the back of my neck to the tip of my tail stand up straight and my claws unsheathe themselves and start begging me to sink them into flesh.
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queerbychoice) wrote2002-01-04 10:26 am
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What on earth DO you think would be snide, if that isn't??????
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*shakes head*
Remember?
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Sorry.
But, normally, I do spell it correctly. Why all this angst?
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First - I have a very limited tolerance for prolonged nasty arguments taking place in my email inbox. I like checking my email to be a primarily pleasant experience, and when several days pass in which every time I open my email box I have to watch people I like calling each other rude names, it ruins my mood continually and I become very irritable. Realizing that the majority of this argument, and practically all of the nastiest parts, did not end up in my own email box but did end up in the email boxes of friends of mine just makes it all worse. It makes me extremely irritable and after it's gone on a few days I start dreading to even check my mail at all and at that point I either start deleting everything unread or I go on a murderous rampage and try to delete all the people who wrote it instead.
Second - I bit my tongue about several things you posted right after our AIM conversation, because it didn't feel like a good time for me to start complaining all over again, but they grated on me and they're not going to stop grating on me until I mention them so I'd better do so now. One: I'm sure you didn't know it, but the correct pronoun to refer to me is "he," not "she." With nouns I identify as a woman, but with pronouns I go by either male ones or genderfree ones when online - the idea being, basically, I don't consider myself male but I don't wish to submit to the traditional gender system's pronoun segregation rules. And two: don't EVER call me a "girl." That word makes all the hair from the back of my neck to the tip of my tail stand up straight and my claws unsheathe themselves and start begging me to sink them into flesh.
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Sorry Gayle, this isn't working out for me.
I don't have time for you and your stress.
Nice getting to meet you.
Peace,
Q
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(Anonymous) 2002-01-06 07:32 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
Oh wait, we can't look because you're afraid to tell us who you are.
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