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[queerbychoice]

My Idea Of Hell
*On the radio: Mariah Carey and Celine Dion.
*On the TV: I don't know; I don't turn on my TV often enough to know what bad programs are there.
*On the VCR: Arnold Schwarzenegger.
*Your spouse/partner: Any of the Symbionese Liberation Army members who kidnapped Patty Hearst and kept her locked in a closet for two months while they raped her and told her she was consenting to it and yelled at her every two minutes that she'd better not dare to even think anything bad about them because they didn't want the FBI to be able to pick up any "negative emotional vibes" in the air that might supposedly enable them to track her down.
*Your dinner: Spinach, green beans, anything green at all.
*Your clothes: Grey, black, brown, or hideously clashing colors; V-necks; stupid teenage-girl-trying-desperately-to-keep-up-with-the-latest-fads designs; skirts too tight to walk in, or which tear into pieces when I insist upon taking long strides in them; shoes with no arch supports (OOUCHHH!!!), and not being allowed to wear a watch.
*Your hair: A horrible gigantic tangled mess with angry stinging insects trapped in it.
*Your library: Completely empty.
*Your dwelling: Muddy-floored, freezing cold and covered with a wide variety of exotic bugs I don't recognize.
*Your neighborhood: A bunch of people who HATE me with intense passion.
*Your job: They'd offer me an extremely high-paying jobs as a gas oven cook at Auschwitz, but I'd betray them so they'd just have to make me a prisoner there, and refuse to kill me.
*Having a conversation with: A bunch of religious fanatics.

My Idea of Heaven
*On the radio: The same stuff I play on my CD player already.
*On the TV: Take everybody I know online, give them all their own TV stations and an infinite amount of time and money to make any kind of shows they're inspired to make.
*On the VCR: Just give me the time and money to write and fund some films of my own.
*Your spouse/partner: Somebody exactly like me, except with a library full of extra information in their head that I don't have, so I can learn something new from them all the time.
*Your dinner: An endless supply of chocolate eclairs. And yeah, occasional other things when I need variety. Lots of bread and cereal and fruit.
*Your clothes: Long brightly colored dresses with huge circle skirts and square-cut necklines. Oh, and the fabric needs to be virtually intangible, because I hatee how the textures of most fabrics irritate my skin.
*Your hair: Exactly the way it is when it's just dried after being washed. Except I'd like it to grow about three feet longer.
*Your library: The Library of Congress.
*Your dwelling: The Library of Congress, with meals and all other necessary supplies special-delivered to the front door so I never have to go shopping.
*Your neighborhood: I don't care, because I'm unlikely to leave the Library of Congress more than once or twice a year.
*Your job: None. I'll just do whatever I'm inspired to do and get money automatically.
*Having a conversation with: The same people I already have conversations with.

Last Things
LAST TIME YOU KISSED SOMEONE? December 1997.
LAST TIME YOU HUGGED SOMEONE? I don't know. It's probably been somewhere between six months and two years.
LAST THING YOU READ? The Broken Bridge, by Philip Pullman.
LAST MOVIE YOU SAW ON THE BIG SCREEN? Ummmmm . . . . it's been at least four or five years since then. It was probably the last Star Trek movie that came out. Whatever it was called.
LAST PHONE NUMBER YOU CALLED? The emergency pager number for my apartment complex maintenance guy.
LAST SHOW YOU WATCHED ON TV? Enterprise.
LAST SONG YOU HEARD? Hmm. The last one I remember is "How You Remind Me" by Nickelback.
LAST THING YOU HAD TO DRINK? Tampico "Orange Mango Tangerine" flavored punch.
LAST THING YOU ATE? Chocolate eclairs.

Comments

[d-r-love.livejournal.com]

Hello.
i'm a alittle confused. like to ask ya a question.
so do you believe you Choose to be queer/gay.
or
that you choose to act upon it. and it is genetic or caused by a event in ones childhood.

I personally have had debates over homosexuality not being a choice but geneitc. something that can't be changed since it's not a choice.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

I chose to be queer one day when I was 15, in the spring of 1992. I do not believe it is genetic or cuased by an event in my childhood; I believe all people have the potential to be queer, and I happened to suspect that such potential existed so I chose to develop the potential and become queer. I described this experience in more detail in my Queerchoice member profile and in several of my entries in the Queerchoice LiveJournal Community. You may also want to read any of the sections of my website, QueerByChoice.com, or join the Queerchoice mailing list to hear other people's experiences of choosing to be queer.

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[d-r-love.livejournal.com]

hmm so my personal experince with my sexuality is at the age of 8 wanting to date females. praying each night to not dream of the womyn in the red dress.
was i making a choice in the second grade when i had a crush on my second grade teacher.

i will read the things you provided above.
honeslty i've never meet a person who said they choose to be queer.
thank you

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

"was i making a choice in the second grade when i had a crush on my second grade teacher."

I don't know; I'm not you and you're the only one who can answer that. But age doesn't have anything to do with whether something is a choice or not; a small child is perfectly capable of making choices, and often very good, wise, and insightful choices too.

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[d-r-love.livejournal.com]

really? about sexuality.
my point of age was that i did not chose my sexuality. so do you think you can change your sexuality. do you agree with the anti gay movement in you can "become straight" i'd just like to see how you would defend yourself to the anti gay radicals.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

Queerness should never be defended on the basis of whether you chose it or not. To use lack of choice as your only defense sends the message that you don't really consider queerness defensible as anything other than a last resort to resign yourself when you have no alternative.

I defend queerness on the grounds that queerness is a good, wise, and beautiful thing. Loving people who deserve to be loved is always good, and I'm proud of having chosen to love people who do deserve to be loved. I do not need any other defense than that. My life is my own and the choice of who to love is mine to make.

"so do you think you can change your sexuality. do you agree with the anti gay movement in you can "become straight"

I have changed my sexuality. I used to be hetero and I chose to turn bi. It seems fairly likely to me that I could also choose to turn homo or to turn back hetero again, but I can't know that for sure because I've never actually tried it, because I like being bi. And I don't think that deciding to turn homo or hetero just to prove whether I can would accomplish anything useful, because I already changed sexual preferences once, and anyone who doesn't believe that it happened the first time isn't likely to believe it the second time around either.

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[d-r-love.livejournal.com]

hmmm personally i HAVE tried to change my sexuality. and i almost died because of it. I'm gonna have to say i really don't understand this mind frame. i've been so dedicated to proving people that homosexuality is not a choice and can't be changed and that God/goddess doesn't make shit. and we cannot be deprived of our rights as americans by something we have no control over. i again dont understand and have never heard your point of view about it being a choice etc. so if you'd like to keep sharing then share.

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

I appreciate the fact that you're making an effort to understand, at least. I had a conversation with Brenna a few months ago on AIM because she had a lot of the same kinds of questions you probably have, and she graciously gave me permission to post our conversation in the Queerchoice LiveJournal Community, so I think that would be a great place for you to start. It's in two parts, so I'll give you both links:

Part I and Part II

[groovycat.livejournal.com]

last hug six months to two years ago? pft! -gives you a big hug-

[fyreharper.livejournal.com]

go hug somebody! now!