I'm not sure that the questions above can entirely get at that, without some other comparative questions thrown in. Or maybe you were just curious about some related issues.
Anyways, I answered that "a partner gets themself pregnant with your sperm against your wishes" is less awful than "a partner gets you pregnant against your wishes" because while the consensuality aspect is equally bad, I think overall the potential consequences for getting pregnant are worse than those of getting someone pregnant. In the latter case, at the very least there are the risks of pregnancy, the risks of abortion and/or the challenges of raising an (unplanned) child, and the potential of a deceptive SOB suing for visitation rights. In the former case, you might be forced into some financial entanglements related to the child...and that's about it.
However, I answered that "a stranger slips rape drugs into your drink and gets you pregnant against your wishes" is less awful than "a stranger slips rape drugs into your drink and gets themself pregnant with your sperm against your wishes and copies down your name and address from your wallet to sue you for child support." I think this one would vary more from person to person, and my answer is probably influenced by a male worldview bias among other things. I could definitely see it being equally awful or the latter being more awful, but since the question asks for me personally: (1) rape occurred in both instances, equally awful (2) pregnancy against my wishes occured, somewhat more awful in the former case regardless of what options I choose from there on out (2b/3) long-term consequences/reminders of the rape, somewhat more awful in the latter case due to the addition that one would definitely be sued for child support - but this answer is with the caveat of understanding that abortion is available and safe in my area, and that the courts would not be stupid enough to grant (or even allow pursuit of) visitation rights for a male rapist, and as you said earlier that the courts would not side with a male rape victim except under the most extreme circumstances...all of which may at this point in history be tenuous arguments, granted.
We both recognized that the questions didn't entirely get at that. We just ran out of patience for revising the questions together any further.
And definitely my answers depend completely on the availability of abortion. If I had no access to it, which many people don't, I would find it far worse to be made pregnant.
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Anyways, I answered that "a partner gets themself pregnant with your sperm against your wishes" is less awful than "a partner gets you pregnant against your wishes" because while the consensuality aspect is equally bad, I think overall the potential consequences for getting pregnant are worse than those of getting someone pregnant. In the latter case, at the very least there are the risks of pregnancy, the risks of abortion and/or the challenges of raising an (unplanned) child, and the potential of a deceptive SOB suing for visitation rights. In the former case, you might be forced into some financial entanglements related to the child...and that's about it.
However, I answered that "a stranger slips rape drugs into your drink and gets you pregnant against your wishes" is less awful than "a stranger slips rape drugs into your drink and gets themself pregnant with your sperm against your wishes and copies down your name and address from your wallet to sue you for child support." I think this one would vary more from person to person, and my answer is probably influenced by a male worldview bias among other things. I could definitely see it being equally awful or the latter being more awful, but since the question asks for me personally: (1) rape occurred in both instances, equally awful (2) pregnancy against my wishes occured, somewhat more awful in the former case regardless of what options I choose from there on out (2b/3) long-term consequences/reminders of the rape, somewhat more awful in the latter case due to the addition that one would definitely be sued for child support - but this answer is with the caveat of understanding that abortion is available and safe in my area, and that the courts would not be stupid enough to grant (or even allow pursuit of) visitation rights for a male rapist, and as you said earlier that the courts would not side with a male rape victim except under the most extreme circumstances...all of which may at this point in history be tenuous arguments, granted.
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And definitely my answers depend completely on the availability of abortion. If I had no access to it, which many people don't, I would find it far worse to be made pregnant.